Just think about your high school friends. Every time you reconnect with them, what do you end up talking about? Is it the same stories about how much fun the final years were? How you guys bunked classes, partied, studied for exams and aced it all?
Now think about your life partners/ Companion :-
- What are the subjects that surround those conversations?
- Do you get to talk about the subjects that are important to you? Do you feel heard?
- Is your partner able to express himself/herself? Does he/she feel heard?
- At the end of the conversation do you feel better for having spoken about whatever was on your mind?
- Is the fear of judgment absent in your conversations?
- Even if there are disagreements or differing points of view, is it expressed in a manner that does not stop you from coming back the next time you have something on your mind?
These are questions that can help you determine whether you have a shallow or deep relationship with the person in question.
It’s not a storage feelings to encounter more of a shallow relationship than the deeper ones. You are likely to have way more shallow relationships than deep relationships in your lifetime. Usually the deep relationships can be counted on your fingertips. How many friends do you have on Facebook now? If they are a 500 then your deep relationships would hover around the 1% mark. That does not mean that you should not have a 500 friends nor does it mean that you should only stick to those who you have a deep relationship with. It does mean that you should recognize and foster the relationships that matter the most to you.
Deep Relationships are like great Wine, they grow better with time
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